Trump’s Assassination Attempt

I’m just going to say it plain and say it straight. The attempt on former President Trump was not such a shocker to me given the rising political discord. Without a stop-break, discord will grow. What’s the real shocker to me are the public responses I’m reading on social media. Where is the decency, where is the compassionate heart for everyone affected by last night’s events? 

I was given a very clear mirror of my own limited heart this morning when, during a call with a community of meditators, I mentioned engaging with the current news. A few people didn’t know what I was referring to, so I mentioned the injury to Trump, another person in critical condition, and the loss of one life. Another person added, like a clear mirror—“and the shooter.” I thanked him, seeing how unconsciously I had dismissed the sniper’s life. After the call, I sat with my dismissal of the one who perpetrated the violence. It was completely unconscious. Why was the sniper left out of my compassionate response? The night before, watching the unfolding events, I had felt a great sadness for the sniper, but most deeply for his family. How might it feel to have one of your own commit an act of violence, did the family feel a sense of responsibility? I can certainly relate. I’ve experienced members of my family who have actually become menacing to society and were incarcerated. I have felt great accountability. Why had I dismissed the sniper’s life? 

For me, “dismissed,” is a key action. How could I have “dismissed,” another as not worthy of my compassion?  One of my first honest questions when viewing the event was, “how many people were struck?” And then, “Who would do this?” All on stage were literally sitting ducks, how terrifying. Next, my mind went to the secret service agents, especially the young woman who continually put her full body in front of Trump’s heart, again and again, until he was in relative safety. There was a doctor on stage who immediately began tending victims. These heroes operated from a place of preserving life and negating a threat to life. 

I’ve identified three key components for myself and I’m mindfully practicing with them this week during the chaos that will certainly ensue: identify when I close down in my body, tend to myself, and open my heart.

I know what dismissal and closed off feels like in my body, I know how to breathe and recognize, breathe and open. In/out until I can engage my heart. What and who am I dismissing? Who is outside of my love and attention? Can I soften those hard lines? 

I’m committed to not having a part in promoting more discord, but in transforming the tragic events of Saturday night. May all impacted by our country’s discord be shocked awake, may we put all resistance aside and embrace the universal right for all people to be free, safe and happy. 

Kindness In The Small

The other night working a packed mental health wing, I got to pondering....

Kindness In The Small

©2021 Karla Johnston, InnerConstellation.com

Have you ever noticed, when walking down the road without sidewalks,

that cars naturally give space to avoid running over you?

When plate or cup is scalding hot, 

the waitress warns everyone.

If arms are carrying a full load, 

people step-in to open doors.

Something is dropped,

and everyone in vicinity bends to pick it up.

A person unburdens great heartache

and surrounding eyes go moist.

Someone smiles and suddenly 

the corners of our own mouths upturn.

Countless times a day

in countless ways,

“Please, you first... 

May I help you?

I feel your pain...I see your joy.” 

I can’t help but wonder

in this time of social distancing 

If we aren’t masking our beautiful, 

innate tendencies

to reach out.

Perhaps, it is the small,

seemingly insignificant, quiet kindness

that gives meaning to our lives.

Kindness of Strangers

Beautifuls! Happy summer! As many of you may know, summer begins the crux of my reading. I’m a total cornball and even develop a summer reading list to savor in the hot days of summer after a good ride, run, tennis match or swim in the Lake. So, my latest read, “The Kindness of Strangers,” includes a preface from the Dalai Lama who encourages us to think about the many ways  our survival depends on the kindness of other sentient beings. It seems a perfect question to ponder in our exploration of “altruism,” this month of July.  We can begin with the very basic kindnesses we’ve all experienced from our parents who brought us into the world (weither known or unknown), the animals, plants and minerals that we consume to nourish and keep us alive, the sun that warms our earth and without which we could not exist....you can go down the rabbit hole very quickly. The question after the pondering is then, “why then in the middle (of life) should we not act kindly toward others?”

When exploring altruism, I hold to be true that kindness is a path of paying attention to the needs of others, being thankful for the many ways that we ourselves are supported and to wish with a noble heart, to return our good fortune with those whom we cross paths. It truly is a matter of common sense. What is done for me, benefits me and comes back as a benefit and blessing to others.

As another tidbit of interest, “The Kindness of Strangers,” posits that an altruistic act is most clearly defined as selfless when done for a complete stranger. Why? Our identity is unknown, thereby shadowing the need for approval or secondary benefit. Also, recipients of the kindness of strangers report that the acts, no matter how small, tend to be remembered and treasured. Why? For the exact same reasons, the motive is pure and without ulterior motive.

Loves, let’s get out there and keep our eyes peeled for the many ways to express kindness and allow the fuel of our own experiences of kindness to inspire us on this summery altruistic exploration!

You Vow To Do What!!!

The word "vow" can cause many people to break out in hives! Itching and scratching yet? However in Eastern tradition the word "vow" implies consenting action. A vow is also made with sovereignty and freedom, not under coercion, threats, or violence. In the West we also tend to think of vows in connection to our relationships, specifically the vow of marriage, where faith is placed in a human being. 

There are Four Vows of an Awakened Being or also known as Four Bodhisattva* Vows, where one's faith is placed not in a vacillating human being but in the sustainability of goodness (my translation). In any situation, no matter how difficult, we can respond mindfully with kindness. This doesn't mean we are stepped on like a doormat. No way! Allowing oneself to be stepped on like a door mat goes against our first and highest ideal--loving kindness! And, if we're not in good working order, love and compassion cannot be extended or sustained. We studied and sang the Four Bodhisattva Vows at the most recent Summer Retreat 2017. They matched perfectly our retreat theme of, "consent."  In our study, we discovered Thich Nhat Hanh's fresh translation of the Four Bodhisattva* Vows:  

The awakened way is unsurpassable; I vow to embody it.

• However innumerable beings are, I vow to meet them with kindness and interest.

• However inexhaustible the states of suffering are, I vow to touch them with patience and love.

• However immeasurable the Dharmas** are, I vow to explore them deeply.

• However incomparable the mystery of interbeing***, I vow to surrender to it freely.

–Thich Nhat Hanh

The Four Vows consent to actively be a source of kindness, peace, compassion to everyone, including ourselves. All suffering stops with us, all happiness begins with us. In these end days of summer may we consent to be happy, healthy and strong, safe and protected, free from inner and outer harm, may we live in the world with ease and grace.  


 *    Awakened Being
**   Spiritual teachings (and the practice of them in our lives)
***  Interconnection with each other and all things

Meeting Unloving Circumstances with Love

Monday was the first day of an 8 day Peace Training Camp hosted by Sheva Carr and Marilyn King. This free event is for anyone committed to peace as a personal orientation and it started off with a bang. Gitta Ryle, a holocaust survivor, was interviewed last evening and her message of forgiveness was profound. Sheva did an excellent job of summing up her words of wisdom for anyone facing an unforgivable circumstance:

1) Make an inner choice - make a choice to not hold on to the experiences in the physical body. Do not forget, for this protects us and honors our life experience but make a conscious decision to move beyond the pain. Gitta spoke of how her physical body began to break down and become sick when Gitta's children became the age she was when separated from her mother and father during World War II. At this point in her life, Gitta made a choice to not just exist but to live and begin to heal and eventually thrive in spite of her horrible circumstances. Her first step was making the inner choice to forgive.

2) Align with what you love - once Gitta made the inner choice to forgive, she said her energy was suddenly freed and she began to see the gifts in her life experiences. Her family had great musical talent and she remembered fondly that which she loved and had been denied for so many years. She rekindled this passion and it became her fuel, her honey, so to speak. She began sharing her gift of music with others and thus became a lighting rod for her core value of cultivating beauty in any given circumstance. When Gitta aligned with and nurtured what she loved, her healing accelerated.

3) Ask for help - Gitta acknowledged with gratitude all the people who helped her to safety and to eventually overcome her tragic circumstances. With the help of caring family, friends and professionals, she was able to confront the issues rather than "stuff them into the body."

4) Have a sense of purpose - lastly, Gitta expressed that when she became free of the great weight of unforgiveness, her freed energy had a purpose. She began speaking to young people as a surviving, thriving witness. In Gitta's interview with Sheva, she spoke of the Yin and Yang of life and that some people are inclined to help while others are inclined to harm, this is human choice. Gitta made a conscious choice to offer comfort and support and be a role model for forgiveness, what is possible and living this actuality.

After the interview wrapped up, I took a humble guess at Gitta's North Star, that which is her guiding light and life's orientation--meet unlovable circumstances with love.

If you have interest in joining the 8 day Peace Training Camp, visit this page, where all talks beginning this past Monday, July 8, through all 8 days can be accessed. If you don't have a Facebook account and would like the links sent to download the talks, please contact me, and I will happily send you all links. Here is the link to listen to Sheva Carr's interview with Gitta . Here's another link to a Heart Start call with Sheva, introducing the amazing heart-empowered, Gitta Ryle. May we learn from her extreme example of meeting unlovable circumstances with love.