Sparkly North Star Practice for the New Year

Here's a New Year contemplation for you--what means the most to you above all else? If you've partnered with me in a private session, you know this is the foremost question we answer. Why? Because it drives our thoughts and ultimately forms our actions. The answer to this question is what I've coined, one's North Star. Once we identify our North Stars--ie, that which is most important to us--then we practice strengthening these beautiful sign posts and using them to guide us through the challenges and joys of life.

In order to embody our personal North Stars there's a practice I call North Star Tapping that I'd like to offer as a practice for the new year. Here it is in a few easy-to-try steps:

• N  -  NOW
  
  Check in with resistance felt in this present moment: not past, not future, but right NOW.
  
  
• O -  O to 10
  
  Assign a number from 0 to 10 to any resistance in the body, mind or emotions, with 0 being       nothing to 10 being strong. This is referred to as the SUD number (Subjective Units of             Disturbance).
  
  

• R - RESISTANCE
  
  Target your resistance with Meridian Tapping (if you don't know what I'm talking about, go to my website and watch the media provided, scroll down to the Tapping Points Guide or contact me for a session).
  
  
• T - TEMPER
  
  "Temper" is to dilute or soften by the influence of something else. Our influencing factor is       Meridian Tapping--tap the points until you get your SUD number down to a 5 or below.             Temper your resistance, you got this....come'on, you're almost there. If you're at a SUD 5 or       lower, jump to the final step....
  
  
• H - HONE IN
  
  To "hone in" literally means to sharpen or make more precise. Hone in your North Star by         working it into your set up statement (say WHAT? If you're not familiar with this IC language, contact me or go to my Inner Constellation website and scroll down for a Meridian Tapping Point guide). So the set up might look like this: "Even though I'm at this (substitute SUD number), I choose (insert North Star)."

One of my personal North Stars is compassion as the number one condition. So, for me, my set up statement looks something like this:

"Even though I'm at this 5, I choose to practice compassion...."

Then we short cut our set up statement to a word or two. For me, this one word reminder is "compassion," as we tap on each point. As we go through the points we might wish to expand on our North Stars, "...I choose to practice compassion by____________________." Just tap and fill in the blank, let the brainstorm begin!

Even though we have resistance in the form of pain, or an emotional challenge, or whatever we've identified, we can still practice our North Stars. And in fact, when we do temper our resistance and embody our North Stars they become brighter and keep us on course.

Whatever is given energy, gets stronger. What do you wish to strengthen this upcoming New Year 2017? I would love to hear your answers, Bright Shining Ones, and partner with you to make it a reality in your life and the lives of your community and loved ones. May our North Stars shine bright in 2017!

Winter Mindfulness Retreat: January 8, 2017

Reserve your calendar, January 8 will be a beautiful day in community! We will be restoring from the holidays and preparing ourselves for the new year with, "Beginning Anew," mindfulness practices in the tradition of Plum Village Thich Nhat Hanh. Please bring a small vegan dish to share as the food at our last retreat was mind-blowingly delicious. If you're not of the nature to cook there will be opportunities to sign up for service during the retreat to keep our day running smoothly. We will be carpooling from The Studio promptly at 9:00am to arrive at our retreat house on Lake Tahoe shores and will be arriving back at The Studio no later than 4:30pm. Bring warm layers for practicing outdoors and soaking up winter beauty. This house is an amazing exhibit of local artistry with hand-crafted wood features and sculpting honoring the local wildlife along with exquisite stain-glass and metal working. It promises to be a nourishing day for ourselves, our loved ones and our community. Please feel free to invite friends, loved ones and community members. RSVP to InnerConstellation.com or our event Facebook page as space is limited.

Beginning Anew

The world witnessed a Forgiveness Ceremony yesterday that will continue to bring peace to the nations who have gathered in support of the Dakota Sioux and their wish to divert the oil pipeline going through sacred lands and threatening local water supply. An easement to continue construction was not granted thanks to the efforts of many thousands of people who came out to support and protest. Among those thousands were our US Veterans who vowed to provide a front line of protection in the non-violent efforts of all those protesting and making their voices heard. After celebrating the halt to construction, a ceremony was held that so beautifully represents the native path I so dearly love--a Forgiveness Ceremony allowed Veterans to heal from their wounds of war and the unskillfulness of past actions against native people. Many of us living in modern society may scratch our heads over such a ceremony. After all, the actions of the past are not our actions. However, actions of the past have created the present moment and learning how to be more skillfull in the present moment will create the actions of the future.

We can take the lessons of forgiveness into our daily lives. Forgiveness is an act of nobility (and humility) and it sets our hearts on the right path. If I, or the people who I am connected to, have hurt another it's an act of peace to go to that person and set things right and learn what I can do to be more skillful in the future. Then, there is no need to hold onto regret for I have vowed to change--this is freeing.

In the Plum Village tradition such an act is called, Beginning Anew, and it's a practice of looking deeply and honestly at ourselves, our past actions, speech and thoughts to create a fresh beginning in our relationship with ourselves and with others. Beginning Anew is practiced every two weeks in communities and families and individually as often as is helpful. In the spirit and theme of peace, Beginning Anew or practicing a forgiving spirit are helpful tools. May we be heartened today by the example of our Native elders and live with equal integrity and respect as we care for ourselves, our loved ones and our communities.

Who's Your Momma?

I went out cross country skiing yesterday, three days after the snow storm and melt/freeze temps. In other words, snow was rock hard. As I approached a hill that I had gone down effortlessly through the fluffy stuff a few days prior, a tiny voice in my head warned, "ummm...maybe ditch the skis." It was my Momma voice. So what did this kid do? Plugged her ears and pushed off! If it wouldn't be tagged as obscene, I'd post the picture of my bruised @$$ as a result of hucking myself down that path of suffering!

Sitting here typing this post is a sore reminder of my stubbornness (or pea-brain nature). It's no coincidence that the December Inner Constellation theme is, "peace," and... that I received this reminder in the mail (which I dug out of the mailbox after my cement collision:)

Whenever I begin a new monthly theme, I look up the word in the dictionary and let the synonyms stir my creative juices. One such equivalent to peace is non-violence. What does it mean to be non-violent to oneself? Revisiting the cross country skiing moment--nonviolence might mean heeding suffering's warning signs. Our bodies are supreme indicators of distress. Do we listen with compassion and wise attention or stifle our body's signals?

I love the analogy of a mother tending her crying baby. It's a rare momma who ignores the cries of her kid, instead she practices non-violence--going to the baby and doing her best to ease discomfort.

This morning I sit with these questions: What's the quality of my thoughts, is each one loving, peaceful and compassionate toward myself, my loved ones and my world? What are my actions? Are they skillful and kind? Am I 100% non-violent in my body, speech and mind? If I am, then I'm on the path of peace. December holiday season is the perfect training ground to ponder the above questions and deepen our practice of peace as we engage with our world and our loved ones this month. I look most forward to the insights and stories. Safe exploration, everyone!