Before I Loved People

Saturday, August 23, 2025

In my mid twenties, when all my friends were having babies, I volunteered at a Wildlife Center, caring for animals on a weekly basis. During five summers, I lived on the premises in exchange for room and board. It was a time in my life when I was fulfilled beyond anything I had imagined, and the reason was— I put my love of Lake Tahoe, the land and its beautiful creatures into concrete action. I went into raptor pens to capture and hood birds for flight exercises, picked up injured beavers so large they barely fit in my trunk, cuddled with bobcat kittens, got vomited on by vultures mistaking me for prey, installed downed trees in baby bear pens while they curiously looked on, performed surgeries (who’s going to sue you?) and much more. I did all of this for love of them. It was heart pumping, all-consuming work, and I loved it.


One evening, years later, I was driving as a passenger down the main road in my mountain town. It was near nightfall as a mama duck and her goslings decided to cross the busy road, heading for Lake Tahoe. Cars in both directions, unable to see the ducks, ran them over. Ducks bounced here and there right in front of us. I remember yelling to the driver (my eventual husband), “STOP!!!!” which he promptly did. Without thinking, I got out of the car and ran into the pileup, gathering the baby ducks into my arms. I then got back in the car and yelled, “DRIVE!!!!” And drive we did, straight to the Wild Life Center. 

Afterwards, he gently prompted that I could have been hurt, maimed, or killed. It’s not wise to just jump out of a car and run into the road. It also wasn’t wise for him to come to a dead stop. Thank goodness we weren’t rear ended. We just didn’t think, rather, we felt. 

If I’m to be honest, back then the main reason I loved animals so much was because I saw them as innocents—scuffed, bruised, and injured because of human carelessness. I had a very low opinion of human beings. Over the last ten years or so, my heart has slowly but steadily softened. I still adore animals, but now—I equally love the two legged variety. 

Here is another such story. Last week my dear nephew decided to ride his bike down a busy road, without a helmet (optional in PA). A man pulled out of a busy diner and my nephew was struck, in his words, “going up over the car and directly into the lane of oncoming traffic.” After landing, he found he couldn’t get up. The man who hit him, pulled his car out to block traffic as the cars swerved around my nephew. A woman, risking her own life, ran out of the diner, into the street and sat by my nephew’s side, rubbing his back and acting as a buffer until the ambulance and police arrived. Once he was safely home, my family and I sat with him as he processed what had happened.  I marveled at this woman, and praised her high and low, my heart full of gratitude. We do not know her name or who she was. 

I thought of the ducks, I thought of my love of them, directing my actions on the busy street. I thought of my nephew, this woman’s love of his life, directing her actions as she kept him safe and calm until help arrived. 

These days I find myself in various venues, sitting with our tossed aside human beings. Last night I listened to an old man, 82 years old, who had lost his daughter at age 38. She had two kids that he helped raise. Now his grand daughter is caring for him. We shared hot soup together at a table with another man who, “lives with the bears and coyotes.” He mesmerized us with stories of goats, bears, horses and quail. The whole table came alive. For love of them, for pure love. 

What is this care, this deep care for the preciousness of life? Can it be touched, protected, held and cherished? Walking out our doors we never know if we may be called upon to help another great or small being. Or perhaps, it’s happening in our homes right now. May our hearts be open, receptive and not turn way or be turned away from. Bless those who are moved to help, may they be safe and secure, protected from all harm as they offer protection, love, and security

What Do I Do Now?

Friday, August 15, 2025

 

Recently, I sat with a young man who has been in and out of Addiction Recovery Centers for over 15 years. He recently stepped off the streets of the Tenderloin in San Francisco and is two weeks sober. 

 

In his story, I heard my own story reflected, and the story of so many impacted by the steam of losses accompanying substance abuse and mental health challenges. Rather than take a position of counselor, which I could have done, I consciously sat in the most open state I could manage and let him teach me about resilience and the continued fight to live a free life. And it is a fight! Not with right and wrong, or good or bad, but with conditions that will always tug on us to go in unwholesome directions.

 

During our time together, what guided me was a tremendous desire to acknowledge his goodness and the steps he’s taking to reclaim his life. The nearest word I can use to describe how I felt and what was present—is awe. Rather than sadness, despair, or pain, I felt a great tenderness, a pure connection, an expression of love beyond this individual, my own story and the wider world. Awe at what he carries, the loads we all carry. 

 

What can we do to lighten the load for ourselves, one another and our communities? What do we do when the ground drops out from under us? When we begin talking to those around us with sincerity, we discover, this young man is not unusual. Everyone struggles, especially in the last five years of illness, wars and economic downfall


“What Do I Do Now?” Is a question seeking to be answered because it’s entirely relevant to our personal lives, our relationships with our loved ones and the health of our communities. Won’t you join me in taking the dive this September 12-17 at Samish Retreat Center to explore our retreat theme— “What Do I Do Now?” As a community we will take a deep and contemplative dive into this question. You are invited, honored, and held as we step into 5 days of exploration. REGISTRATION INFORMATION.